*sigh* It's not easy being a girl

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Jags said:
~*~Kathleen~*~ said:
Doing The Dixie Eyed Hustle said:
You're hired.

I know. Men like that only exist Once Upon a Dream.

PFFFT!
I pay all the bills
I do all the cooking
I do all the grocery shopping
I do 50% of laundry
I do 50 % of the dishes
I do 50% of the cleaning
I do all maintenance
I do all the outside work (5 acre yard to boot)
I do everything to do with river cabin
I do everything there is to do with wood burning.

Sometimes I wish I were a girl. I have two adult ones under my roof. As far as I can tell, they got it made. Flame me if you must.

Ever think of goin to one of those shelters for abused men?
 
Seasoned Oak said:
Jags said:
~*~Kathleen~*~ said:
Doing The Dixie Eyed Hustle said:
You're hired.

I know. Men like that only exist Once Upon a Dream.

PFFFT!
I pay all the bills
I do all the cooking
I do all the grocery shopping
I do 50% of laundry
I do 50 % of the dishes
I do 50% of the cleaning
I do all maintenance
I do all the outside work (5 acre yard to boot)
I do everything to do with river cabin
I do everything there is to do with wood burning.

Sometimes I wish I were a girl. I have two adult ones under my roof. As far as I can tell, they got it made. Flame me if you must.

Ever think of goin to one of those shelters for abused men?

Abused men? I used to do all that and get in a ten mile run, before breakfast. :long:
 
CTYank said:
If you think someone's going to do a "Wait Until Dark" thing with you, be sure you have emergency lighting, charged cell-phone, and maybe something more physical. Be discreet about specifics. Intrusion alarms are good. All to buy time to leave or find brown-belt roomie.
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You forgot to call me little lady. :coolgrin:

(Smiley added by Moderator)
 
~*~Kathleen~*~ said:
CTYank said:
If you think someone's going to do a "Wait Until Dark" thing with you, be sure you have emergency lighting, charged cell-phone, and maybe something more physical. Be discreet about specifics. Intrusion alarms are good. All to buy time to leave or find brown-belt roomie.
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You forgot to call me little lady.

Tosses BB the butter :)
 
Hear an intruder? Start the damn chainsaw.

BB - Who did just that one day when a fool pulled a knife while BB had a Poulan MicroXXV in his left hand.
 
BrotherBart said:
Hear an intruder? Start the damn chainsaw.

BB - Who did just that one day when a fool pulled a knife while BB had a Poulan MicroXXV in his left hand.

We definitely need to hear more about this.
 
Have come to accept the fact were my wife to ever realize I am not nearly the catch she thinks I am and leaves me I would have no chance with a woman like Kathleen......she scares me :)
 
OK I am gonna put my 2 cents in now. I have sick in bed for days with the flu and too weak to sit at a keyboard and type. I will use that as a segway for what I am gonna say. (No my friggin laptop is not fixed yet) :exclaim:
I don't think anyone (male or female)can know what it is like to be a single parent, work full time, and run the household unless of course you do it. How does one do all that when he/she gets sick? I bet it ain't easy. There are no sick days for a single parent. I have the utmost respect for the gals (and perhaps some guys)here at Hearth that are the single parents and breadwinners of the family. I can't imagine how hard it is sometimes especially for a woman. It must be a challenge from fixing your own appliances, installing a wood stove and yes buying a chainsaw from a bunch of douschebags that don't wanna take you seriously.

Kat, I am glad you did what you did in that chainsaw store. Those a$$holes did not deserve your hard earned money. I liked your technique, however I prolly would have tweaked it a bit. I would have went up to them and asked them "Who is gonna effin sell me a chainsaw today boyz?"
I would let them go through their little sales routine, proceed to the sales counter and when asked for payment I would have told them to shove their saw up their *&^&^% *&&%^%#$# , laugh and walk out. I know I am devious and have a bad temper. :coolsmirk:

Kat did not start this thread as a Pity Party on her behalf. She is just sharing her experience a woman can go through in certain circumstances.
Maybes I am still a little cranky from being sick. :p You all will have to excuse me.

Good intruder advice on the chainsaw BB. Do you use that same technique when you get a Fedex delivery? :lol: :coolhmm:
 
GAMMA RAY said:
OK I am gonna put my 2 cents in now. I have sick in bed for days with the flu and too weak to sit at a keyboard and type.
I I know I am devious and have a bad temper. :coolsmirk:

Kat did not start this thread as a Pity Party on her behalf. She is just sharing her experience a woman can go through in certain circumstances.
Maybes I am still a little cranky from being sick. :p You all will have to excuse me.

:lol: :coolhmm:

Before you hurt someone. . .
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Ok, I think it's official, everyone want's to hear the rest of the story BB. Why did some dude pull a knife on you when you had a chainsaw in your hand? Did he wanna steal yer pull-on?? :lol:
 
From my angle, male 50s, I'm gonna let you in on something - help isnt what it used to be. I get no more respect at the counter than a 'sweet young thang'. What I mean is our world has changed. People dont care anymore.

As for answering a CL listing, anything goes, know what I mean ? What I mean is our world has changed. Use your network for stuff, dont jump into the fire. Keep your network close.

To be able to live the life of chickens in the yard and bees and raising kids like you wanna with no help is (or will be) rewarding enough. It is what you got (and chose).

You being an educator already know this (about folks), and I realize its just a subject on a forum.
 
seeyal8r said:
firefighterjake said:
Jags said:
~*~Kathleen~*~ said:
Doing The Dixie Eyed Hustle said:
You're hired.

I know. Men like that only exist Once Upon a Dream.

PFFFT!
I pay all the bills
I do all the cooking
I do all the grocery shopping
I do 50% of laundry
I do 50 % of the dishes
I do 50% of the cleaning
I do all maintenance
I do all the outside work (5 acre yard to boot)
I do everything to do with river cabin
I do everything there is to do with wood burning.

Sometimes I wish I were a girl. I have two adult ones under my roof. As far as I can tell, they got it made. Flame me if you must.

Kind of the same thing here . . . I guess my wife and I look at things as not being "man" jobs or "woman" jobs, but rather jobs that either she or I are good at or don't mind doing . . .

For example, I know my wife could do all the bills fine . . . but she trusts me to do the bills and handle the finances . . . and on my part I always let her know where we are in terms of bills, savings, etc.

As for cooking -- I would guess I do maybe 60% . . . but that's since she taught me how to cook and we have a deal . . . whoever cooks doesn't have to clean and while we have a dishwasher for the life of me I can never get it filled as much as she can.

I often do the laundry and hang the laundry or use the dryer, but she says I don't fold the clothes right so I just hang our uniforms and leave the T-shirts, underwear and socks.

I do most of the outside work, but she can mow a lawn or even plow if she had to . . . and in the same vein of thought she does most of the more "detailed cleaning" such as dusting . . . we can both do it, but it's just a more or less equal division of labor.

As for the wood burning . . . honestly I do most of the processing . . . but she runs the stove maybe 50% or more of the time . . . and I'm fine with that since it all keeps the oil bills low.

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For the record my wife and I have seen idiots ignore her . . . usually at their own peril . . . normally in places like Home Depot, Lowes or with contractors who do not realize she knows far more than I ever will about construction . . . something about her father making everyone in her family work on their house renovations when they were young.

Pretty similar in my household. I do most outdoor chores and the wife maintains the indoor area. I vacuum the swimming pool once a week and she cleans the skimmer daily. I put clothes/dishes away but she does all the cooking. And lets face it doing laundry honestly takes a few minutes per load of actual elbow time the rest is waiting. I've never complained about a meal (even though there have been some bad ones) and that keeps me from having to cook. I do the grocery shopping on occassion and keep $ in the bank for her to spend on her needs and save for her wants. We got it pretty much made I think.

Basically same here. We split up most chores, except DH cooks more and I do the dishes more. He makes a mess in my porcelin sink with the cast iron (black scratches) and it makes me cranky because I really like that sink (it's one of the old fashioned ones with the side drain area, not the new repros so it's kinda worn inside and stains too easy). He mows, but we have a lawn tractor and he thinks it's fun, so who I am to spoil it. I tend the garden part, planting, pruning, deadheading. I refill the wood box and he usually loads the stove when we're up, but I get to do the nighttime reloads (win!), I also dustbuster and clean the hearthpad and ash lip. I also laid the hearthpad, he found it increably tedious and frustrating. But the natural stones were my idea, so it was my 10 hour project (the grout kept trying to adhere to the tops of my twice sealed stones so I had to scrub each one).

btuser said:
eclecticcottage said:
I'm not scared of the saw...I respect the saw...and I don't use the saw...because I'm a massive klutz. If I can trip on nothing I will. But honestly I keep busy hauling brush away from the cutting area on freshly downed trees (safety first!) and bringing new wood to saw up over to the cutting area for the precut scrounges. DH has a couple herniated discs so I do most of the lifting. Same for splitting-he runs the splitter but I bring the rounds over to him to split. Then I wheelbarrow the splits to the pile and stack.

You're Hired!

Lol...since the stove was more my idea than his, I figure I can't really ask him to do everything. Besides, it's fun. When I was little, I used to hang out with my grandpa when he processed the firewood (he bought log loads) too.
 
burr said:
. I get no more respect at the counter than a 'sweet young thang'. know what I mean ? .

I pulled a cookie tin, full of cold hard cash, out of the freezer this last summer
and went to buy a truck. It's pretty complexing the way I was treated/not treated.
I don't know what business people are taught but I thought maybe I had the wrong color shirt on?
I was referred to a fella about 40 miles away and called him and made an appointment for the next day.
He was glad to have me toss my cookies his way. I also wore a different colored shirt so who knows?
Kenny
 
kenny chaos said:
burr said:
. I get no more respect at the counter than a 'sweet young thang'. know what I mean ? .

I pulled a cookie tin, full of cold hard cash, out of the freezer this last summer
and went to buy a truck. It's pretty complexing the way I was treated/not treated.
I don't know what business people are taught but I thought maybe I had the wrong color shirt on?
I was referred to a fella about 40 miles away and called him and made an appointment for the next day.
He was glad to have me toss my cookies his way. I also wore a different colored shirt so who knows?
Kenny

In my experiance, dealers around here are crooked crooks. I bought our first new used car in PA near Jersey and the second one way down in Ohio near Kentucky. I found both online and did most of the dealing via email. I had the trade amounts already decided on site unseen and all we had to do was bring a check and sign, give them the keys and get ours and the title. Made for long days, but was well worth it. Plus neither had seen salt.

I got at least 20% more on the trades, paid less for the new (used) cars and paid less for the warrantees.

We've tried a few times to buy here and the dealers screwed us each time-oh, we can't give you the deal we said we could, your trade isn't worth what it says it is blue book, blah blah blah.
 
~*~Kathleen~*~ said:
2. I decide on a chainsaw to buy. Decide to purchase it at the local shop. Walk in with cash in my pocket. It's a small shop and there are no other customers. I spend about 15 minutes messing around at the chainsaw section in full sight of two guys doing nothing. Playing with saws, making notes, reading brochures. They both completely ignored me. When I was wood stove shopping I got a lot of the "little lady" routine, but I was suprised at being completely ignored.




Ive changed my style to fit a little better; like for your situation, Ive found that, instead of politely waiting your turn to speak or act, give 'em a minute or so and then if nothing starts your way, walk directly to one of 'em and ask if he's gotta minute. Go ahead, butt in if they won't include you.

I swear I hate to admit it, but I have come to expect very little from people nowaday. (Its refreshing to hear a lotta yalls' very positive and old fashioned care for; as you may notice, Im a lurker mostly.)

By the way, OP, what saw have you decided on ? If you were to ask me, I'd go with a Stihl 16".
 
~*~Kathleen~*~ said:
BrotherBart said:
Hear an intruder? Start the damn chainsaw.

BB - Who did just that one day when a fool pulled a knife while BB had a Poulan MicroXXV in his left hand.

We definitely need to hear more about this.

Not much to it. Friend in North Dallas calls and says he is at a guy's house and they are going to have a party and somebody dragged up wood for the fireplace but nobody has a saw. Will I come over and cut it up for him? Go over and whack the small stuff into fireplace meat and go inside for a drink of water before I leave. Guy that owns the place smarts off and I reply. He picks up a carving knife and says he is gonna change my attitude. I reach down and pull the rope and the saw fires off and I rip it a couple of times.

I guess a chainsaw starting in the middle of your kitchen sobers ya up pretty fast. He dropped the knife and I left as the rest of the people came running from all over the house.
 
I often worry about the wife who finds steals on CL. But she does homework similar to you kathleen, that and looking at google satelite images of the area. Must say im not even that smart.
Last stove shopping excursion, salesLADY, was feeding us all sorts of misinformation, wife practically calls her an idiot and drags me out with a smile.
Some education you should see her use a sawzall, might as well be a surgeon.

Good to see alls well though.

BB whats the laws on concealed chainsaws in VA?
 
Stump_Branch said:
wife practically calls her an idiot you should see her use a sawzall, might as well be a surgeon.

God I love women. We had an apartment once and a guy was running an electrical
business out of a small barn in the back. Everyday when the guys came back with their vans,
they would run into the wifes garden and help themselves.
She put an absolute end to it one day when she stuck a rifle out the window and let one
go over their heads. To this day she laughs about how fast they ran. :lol:
Kenny
 
burr said:
Ive changed my style to fit a little better; like for your situation, Ive found that, instead of politely waiting your turn to speak or act, give 'em a minute or so and then if nothing starts your way, walk directly to one of 'em and ask if he's gotta minute. Go ahead, butt in if they won't include you.

Usually I will ask, but in this case, no. Too damn stubborn. But you're right, it's inconsequential, and the stuff that matters is golden.

It's a husqvarna.

Was wondering where Gamma has been! Yes I'm not looking for sympathy or advice. Just starting a conversation. Thanks Gamma http://www.freesmileys.org/emoticons/emoticon-animal-031.gif
 
BrotherBart said:
~*~Kathleen~*~ said:
BrotherBart said:
Hear an intruder? Start the damn chainsaw.

BB - Who did just that one day when a fool pulled a knife while BB had a Poulan MicroXXV in his left hand.

We definitely need to hear more about this.

Not much to it. Friend in North Dallas calls and says he is at a guy's house and they are going to have a party and somebody dragged up wood for the fireplace but nobody has a saw. Will I come over and cut it up for him? Go over and whack the small stuff into fireplace meat and go inside for a drink of water before I leave. Guy that owns the place smarts off and I reply. He picks up a carving knife and says he is gonna change my attitude. I reach down and pull the rope and the saw fires off and I rip it a couple of times.

I guess a chainsaw starting in the middle of your kitchen sobers ya up pretty fast. He dropped the knife and I left as the rest of the people came running from all over the house.

I.Love.It. Kinda like this classic scene :coolsmirk: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=KvDpiUD3lJs&list=FLUuHd4XdX02jyolpgO0CO_w&index=80&feature=plpp_video
 
BrotherBart said:
~*~Kathleen~*~ said:
BrotherBart said:
Hear an intruder? Start the damn chainsaw.

BB - Who did just that one day when a fool pulled a knife while BB had a Poulan MicroXXV in his left hand.

We definitely need to hear more about this.

Not much to it. Friend in North Dallas calls and says he is at a guy's house and they are going to have a party and somebody dragged up wood for the fireplace but nobody has a saw. Will I come over and cut it up for him? Go over and whack the small stuff into fireplace meat and go inside for a drink of water before I leave.

I believed every word until the line about a drink of water....
 
~*~Kathleen~*~ said:

Just kidding, of course. Some of your stories, though, make me laugh while thinking "how does she get into these situations". I do enjoy every one of the stories.

As for the chainsaw protection, I personally would buy one of the smaller chinsaws for personal protection- easier to conceal under a bathrobe.
 
BeGreen said:
I believed every word until the line about a drink of water....

Life long rule. Don't pop a top before five o'clock. No such rule for when to stop.
 
My sister-in-law has the same rule, but then she counters - "Well, it's 5 pm in Paris already" or "It's got to be 5pm somewhere" LOL.
 
BeGreen said:
My sister-in-law has the same rule, but then she counters - "Well, it's 5 pm in Paris already" or "It's got to be 5pm somewhere" LOL.

Ya can't "Drink all day" unless you start in the morning.
 
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