Mom Fell, In Florida .....

If I may suggest, be sure she is doing breathing exercises. It is common to pull rib muscles with a fall in elderly people. Often they compensate for pain by shallow breathing leading to pneumonia.
Hopefully her medical team has already addressed this.
Wishing both of you the best

Good luck, Eileen! I have been through a similar, with my Father. Patience is the watchword of the day, for everyone involved.
Just remember, I'm pulling for ya, we're all in this together...

Good that she's getting better. Thumbs up.

I have found it interesting that as more and more middle aged people are providing care for ageing/infirm parents the nature of available services has changed in response. When I was doing it finding and accessing assistance was more difficult than it is now. I'm glad to see changes have been made. Keeping people in their homes/with their families as long as is possible is crucial to maintaining the well being of the person in question. I am glad to read your good news, Dixie. A family willing to "circle the wagons" is an asset of inestimable value.

Our experience with the nursing home was a complete horror, as was the second rehabilitation facility (she'd had a stroke and the first place was fabulous). I have nothing positive to share about either of those two places; in fact, the experience was searing. It filled me with revulsion and left me seriously shaken about what is to come for me, the good man, and others I love. I truly hope things continue to change in the years to come.

It is always better if you can stay in your own home. A lot of states have visiting nurses/helpers that will check on people daily. Here in Maryland they encourage it, as assisted living facilities are horribly expensive.
Two days on the floor! How awful. I am glad she is back on the mend.

begreen said:

Her last couple years were spent in a nursing home in Somers, NY that provided good care.

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That's the town I grew up in. I assume it was the place on RT100. It was called Somers Manor when I was a kid. Maybe the name has changed?

For us, the issue wasn't money. She had the funds to pay for the nursing home. It was the basic care (lack thereof); slack attention to proper hygiene and sanitary practices. And the fact that Mum's clothing seemed to vanish as quickly as a fart in a stout breeze (no one ever quite knew where or how it "got lost"). When her body was removed the bracelet she'd cherished for years was "missing". The value wasn't the issue, the fact that it was stolen was! What sickened me most was the realization that I'd never done a complete inventory of her "personal property" (who knew her clothing would be stolen? or that divesting her of jewellery she'd worn for years would be a necessary precaution against theft?), and I was thankful no one there had the cheek to steal her wedding ring and a ring she'd received for her 16th. birthday (I wear them now). It's been 7 years and the indignity still makes the bile rise in my throat.

Document EVERYTHING; every pair of underpants, every shirt, pair of slacks, etc.. And insist that the intake nurse signs off on the inventory and that anything to be "discarded" is returned to you! Be a ball-buster on this. Trust me. And if your loved one is frail and dependent on proper hygiene (urostomy/colostomy)... show up when they least expect you. They'll promise you the sun, the moon, and the stars, but the practical reality is the person dealing with the ostomies has nary a clue about how to do it properly. I learned how... and it wasn't hard (I did it for close to 4 yrs. with no infections), but attention to proper hygienic detail was crucial. And it was the very thing most lacking whenever "I popped in". No one paid scant attention when I'd raise concerns... "our staff is professionally trained". Yeah, right. And that's why she died of a urinary tract infection? Most inmates die from opportunistic/easily prevented infections that run amok... . Trust me on this.

Bobbin, Sorry you had such a terrible experience.

Glad to hear your Mom is mending Dixie ... Hope she's as tough as Great Gram Catherine, hit by a city bus in her 80s and had both hips broken - lived to 103!

Canada (Ontario at least) seems to be a bit more progressive as far as elder care - tax breaks and wage insurance for taking time off to care for family members. Home care is always a preferred option as our elders are best served by being at home or with family members. Home health care is a cheaper option (for government insurance here).