My wife doesn't use enough paper, kindling, and always places a split that is way to large to start a fire and again even though I have gone over repeatedly to not shut the bypass untill 500-550 and slowly turn down the secondary air-control in 1/4 to 1/3 steps over 20-30 minutes she won't. If I try to offer a suggestion she rolls her eyes and walks away. She also harasses me for being on this forum to much. I really think everyone has an individual situation, and honestly if you aren't in to it, you aren't in to it. Some people resent their significant other for running a wood stove when they can turn on the automatic thermostat and run the gas or electric or oil and don't give a damn about the bill. I'm just lucky she keeps the fire going and doesn't complain about the smell and doesn't turn on the electric heat.