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Teenage relationships - what are they coming to?!

Post in 'The Inglenook' started by Swedishchef, Mar 8, 2013.

  1. Swedishchef

    Swedishchef Minister of Fire

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    Hey guys

    I had to post this for you guys to get a good laugh. I don't know if this is the new "norm" in dating/relationships or what.

    Good friends of ours have 2 daughters. One of them is 16. And as lots of 16 year olds, she has an iPhone. And is deeply addicted to it. So here's the story. She has met some guys online (via facebook, twitter, etc) and some times she will Facetime with them. Well now she "watches movies" (they both watch a netflix show at the same time) with them via facetime and will keep facetime open while they sleep!!!!!! The girl and the guy live 4000 miles away from each other.

    So, my question (since I don't have teenagers): how normal is this!? LOL

    Andrew

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  2. Highbeam

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    You'll have to ask a 16YO girl. I suspect that parents often don't even know about this.
  3. yooperdave

    yooperdave Minister of Fire

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    I sure am glad that my son and daughter didn't go through anything like that when they were that age. Sounds like the 16 year old has a bit too much time on her hands, no?

    But then, if someone told me that I would be posting on a site talking about wood burning and non-related stuff......
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  4. Thistle

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    Weird.
  5. Jack Straw

    Jack Straw Minister of Fire

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    I spend many, many hours chatting online with a bunch of strangers about wood burning. Sometimes we all have fires going at the same time. Probably sounds weird to a 16 year old girl!
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    BrotherBart Hearth.com LLC Mid-Atlantic Division Staff Member

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    I don't have kids but if I had a teenage daughter and she was sleeping with some guy I would prefer that the beds be 4,000 miles apart.
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    Hopefully he's not a vampire. Or a shape-shifting giant wolf dude.
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  8. Swedishchef

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    Lol. Love the comments.

    Again, difference in generations? Some couples my age spent hours on the phone when we were young and our parents trout we were weird...

    This is all taking place late at night...like 11 pm onward.
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    hossthehermit Minister of Fire

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    Back in my day.........

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  10. Jack Straw

    Jack Straw Minister of Fire

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    If my teacher looked like that, she would have had my attention!
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  11. woodgeek

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    daughter with iphone.....use monitored and not allowed in bedroom. kindle has unrestricted usage.
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    Safe sex:cool:
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    Daughter or Son, any device with a camera should stay out of the bedroom or bathroom.......I've heard of hackers that break into your system and can turn the camera on as they wish. As far as having the Iphone attached to them...common, even my friends will text from the kitchen to the living room that dinner is ready. Mark my words, we are raising a generation of kids who cannot read basic english for the most part...everything is "u r", "brb". Just to note....we do not have any youngin, but have friends and family who do
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    What gets me is when going out to eat. And I'm young compared to many here at 27 but the generation my age and younger doesn't ever get off the phone. There will be 3-4 people at a table eating and never say a word to each other. Just play on their phones the whole time they are eating. Drives me nuts!
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  15. Swedishchef

    Swedishchef Minister of Fire

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    I agree swagler. I am only 32 and I have noticed it. people sit around a table and text others.
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    Seems to me teens have always found ways to screw around.
  17. webbie

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    We have always been liberal with our kids (I'm sure that's a big surprise).

    I know my boy was looking at the good things in life when he was a young teen....and, guess what? He's a social worker and in love with a nice midwestern woman who is also a social worker.

    My other two are fine and moral upstanding citizens also.

    I think each situation is different. We didn't have iphones then, of course, but pictures could be uploaded (my son was born 1985, so plenty of AOL and full internet by the time he was 11).

    If I had a kid who I had to be worried about, I would definitely consider some limits until a certain age. After 16, though, it starts to get chancy - at 17 some "kids" go in the military. It's hard to say at that age they need you to mess around with parental controls...

    There are always "controls allowed" when they are living in your house and when the iphone or computer is on your dime......so that's part of the issue. If they want to pay, they may be able to play more....
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    Hopefully not a Kindle fire....
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  19. nate379

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    Well if anyone really wants to look at me in the bathroom they certainly have a sick and twisted mind. I'm "only" 30 but let's just say the years haven't been that nice to me. :eek:

    I don't have texting on my phone (blocked it) and people will text me and get pissed when I don't reply. I never even get their messages.

    Did you think of maybe, oh, I dunno... CALLING?!
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    Calling people is usually a PITA and is inefficient most of the time.

    Playing phone tag with voice mail is a joke.....
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    In the early 90's when my niece was around 12 or so she was their house computer operator. Could make it and AOL walk and talk. One night late after everybody went to bed my brother in law bugged me to show him some porn sites. I went to go to one of the two I knew of at the time and ran into parental controls on AOL. I said "Somebody has activated parental controls.".

    From the bedroom down the hall the niece's voice yelled "Yeah. I did. I got tired of all of Dad's porn junk showing up.". ;lol
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    I've got a 15 year old daughter, and she will use facetime to "hang out" with her best friend who lives 7 miles away. She's responsible, and I don't have
    a problem with her internet usage. I've got a 12 year old son who I have to watch like a hawk. He figured out how to jailbreak his ipod to hide his
    surfing. I figured out how to hide his ipod until I am sitting at the same table with him. Every kid is different.
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    I understand you can bump one anothers phones and get who knows what from that:eek:
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  24. nate379

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    I'd rather call and spend 2 mins talking then 20 mins trying to type enough to explain it. Same way I don't do email when I need more than a simple response. Can have it done in a few mins on phone instead of days through email.

    But hey if it works for you then by all means. Just don't get mad if you text me and I never respond. hahaha!

    Oh, when I had a home phone I had a few people text to that. Some computer voice said out loud what they wrote! Needless to say, I had no freaking clue what they meant. All them LOL my BFF, JKs, whatever the hells don't mean crap to me.

  25. Mrs. Krabappel

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    I didn't do that stuff when I was a kid because it wasn't available. I fought with my brothers for phone time with the one corded phone. You had to go into the coat closed and sit in the boot box if you wanted any privacy. I would loved to have had the technology we have now.

    My almost 13 y/o doesn't do any of that communicating yet, but does love games and youtube for stupid stuff. He needs limits or would be 24/7 plugged in.

    I'm pretty liberal but I passcode all internet access since ~ 2 years ago when he started searching for pervy stuff. I've been totally open about "the birds and the bees" with him since he was young, but he's not ready to stumble across internet stuff :eek:. I don't know if there's an age where you are ready for some of that. If there is I haven't reached it yet.

    We live in a small old cabin with no drywall between rooms, so I could pretty much tell when the adolescent urges began. To compromise the nanny net, I purchased him a subscription to playboy. You should see him race home from the bus so he gets the mail before my elderly neighbor !!!


    I loved this scene in brides maids. NSFW!!
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