Soupy, I feel for you with the extra burden you have. However, I'm also betting that you will soon take all the wood burning chores as normal. You will also find that it actually becomes easier when you keep that stove going. However, that being said, you need to be very thankful you have the furnace as a backup. With the wood stove, even if you can save half on the oil bill it is well worth it. One more thing. There have been times when I can not attend to the fire and thank God my wife can. It is not a good feeling to not be able to tend the stove but an excellent feeling knowing someone else can at least do part of it. I'm betting your wife could do some of the loading of the stove even if you have to split the wood smaller. Having just that little extra help could mean a lot to you. Good luck.