Hi experts out there - I'm a newbie working with my Quadrafire 3100i insert to built the most efficient fire. I've learned already to make the first fire a good long hot one to prime the stove - once that's down to a good layer of red charcoal I'm adding more wood, getting it to flame and turn red on the outside, and damping down - my question is how low??? If I take it down to where I just get flames dancing at the top of the firebox - not even on the wood - is that too low? Eventually of course those flames poop out. So if I'm going to bed, how should the fire look before I leave it? Thanks, mentors! Barbara