It's hard as an adult to have someone tell you you're doing something all wrong then try to explain it to you like you're a child. Personally I hate screwing up and even more when someone points it out! Recently I reloaded the stove at night and pushed the air control in a bit quicker than normal because I was tired. Darned if I didn't wake up to half burn splits in the morning. Somehow we managed to avoid the discussion regarding how that happened. And about three days later, I came home and saw the stove dark. figured I'd throw some splits in while DH made dinner. And found he did the same thing, lol-two smouldering splits greeted me when I opened the door. I just went ahead and tried to get them going again. When he noticed and said it was going good when he left, I said it was the same thing that happened to me the other day. Neither of us is used to burning truley seasoned wood and we both got a little carried away with the air control. I imagine pretty much everyone had a learning curve when starting to run their stove/furnace/fireplace whether they want to admit it (especially to their SO) or not. Maybe it wouldn't be a bad thing to do, though-hey honey, I noticed the wood was smoldering, that happened to me too, but I figured out if I did this it didn't happen/when I did this it did-want me to show you what I learned? Just this year we got a "new" lawn tractor-a neat old Gravely 8000 series from a neighbor that had passed on. We had to learn to use it together, since it is quite a bit different than my old wheelhorse or dh's old (new) craftsman. I even drove it in front of DH (usually I'm afraid I'll make a horses rear out of myself with something mechanical in front of him, I'd rather learn with no audience). At this point in our lives it's a little harder to take instruction, especially if you're used to being a go to person at work or otherwise.