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Enabling Significant Other

Post in 'The Hearth Room - Wood Stoves and Fireplaces' started by mass_burner, Nov 5, 2013.

  1. begreen

    begreen Mooderator Staff Member

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    One could say that of a lot of 27 yr olds, male and female.

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  2. eclecticcottage

    eclecticcottage Minister of Fire

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    I don't think they make guys like they used to either. I lucked out, but man, my BIL barely knows where the gas goes in the car, much less how to change the oil in it. Any time any little thing needs done on their town house, he calls a "guy". I don't think he'd know which end of a hammer to use for what. :p

    (BTW, I also can change the oil and do a good amount of home improvement stuff-except wiring because that scares me for absolutely NO good reason, so I leave that to DH most of the them-I did wire in the vanity light at our Old House though. And I have my own hammer)
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  3. eclecticcottage

    eclecticcottage Minister of Fire

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    No doubt! DH and I were just discussing how people don't know how to do things anymore. Like make bread from scratch (as ours was rising on the hearth) or can or make cookies (and making cookies doesn't mean opening a refrigerated packet and baking the preformed pieces). Kinda scary actually.
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  4. Doing The Dixie Eyed Hustle

    Doing The Dixie Eyed Hustle Minister of Fire

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    Guys, every year this comes up, and understandably so, but the shoe fits on both feet in this case.
    Yes it does, she IS one.

    *shoe busting* ;)
  5. oldspark

    oldspark Guest

    Well the wife runs the stoves or freezes when I am gone, makes it easy.
  6. mass_burner

    mass_burner Minister of Fire

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    actually, as the OP, I was asking what do you do to make it easier for your significant other to keep the stove going. in my case, i keep biobricks handy, i wouldn't normally use them otherwise. but threads take on a life of thier own.
  7. eclecticcottage

    eclecticcottage Minister of Fire

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    you know...the one thing I didn't think of helped both of us, a stove top thermo. I did neglect to tell him that the Rutland is really a single wall pipe thermo, I just told him not to pay attention to the "zones" just the temp. He was reading up somewhere online about stove temps and got a bit confused because of it-I'm thinking the thread he read was talking about flue temps (at least, I hope) because he was telling me we run the stove too hot and most people keep in in the zones. Then I told him it was a flue thermo and that was resolved back to running the stove as we had been.

    Anyway, a stove top thermo with knowledge of where to keep it and how helps. And if your SO is curious, and you use a single wall thermo with zones like we do, explain that part!
  8. Joful

    Joful Minister of Fire

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    Amen. Some gender roles served us well, at the time. Whereas women typically learned to sew and cook, men typically learned how to maintain the home and family transportation. Now, we seem to be living in a world of wussies who can't do any of these things. Rather than the man learning traditional woman roles, and vice versa, most successful people are happy to have zero skills of self-sustenance. An affluent man rescuing his family from a flat tire has somehow become, "call AAA."

    But... none of this has anything to do with tending stoves. ;lol
  9. bag of hammers

    bag of hammers Minister of Fire

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    Same deal except Johnny Depp at my place. Any Pirates movie on the tube, and I no longer exist. I consider it to be a small payback for the many times I'm pretty much playing the part of brain dead jerk (re: how-not-to-treat-your-significant-other).
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  10. mass_burner

    mass_burner Minister of Fire

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    one of our favorite family stories is of my nephew when he was 15 was asked to throw out the trash. he somehow wrestled the bag out of the receptacle, but didn't know enough to tie the draw strings. his mother told him to tie the bag and he didn't know what she was talking about. my wife and i were laughing from behind the kitchen window watching him on the lawn trying to tie the bag up for about 15 minutes. his mother had to eventually help him. this kid was a straight A student and since graduated from an ivy league school.
  11. oldspark

    oldspark Guest

    Oh now I understand, plenty of wood and kindling, super cedars if she needs them and the flue and stove top thermometers and my great advice.;)
  12. eclecticcottage

    eclecticcottage Minister of Fire

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    I forgot to ask...but...why? Bugs? Splinters? ??

    I almost grabbed a yellow jacket the other day on a split outside. So I can kinda get the bugs/bees part. Getting stung sucks. Never got a splinter from a split though-I HAVE gotten them from ecbricks though, lol.
  13. firefighterjake

    firefighterjake Minister of Fire

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    Annual thread . . . and as I have said in the past . . . running a woodstove effectively does not require a dingus.
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    brenndatomu Minister of Fire

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    ...just don't be a dingus ;lol
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  15. CenterTree

    CenterTree Feeling the Heat

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    Just hope she doesn't find an "alternative heat source" while you are away.:p:)
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  16. PapaDave

    PapaDave Minister of Fire

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    Another good reason to get one of these.
    My wife requests that I get a fire going, although she prefers it a little cooler than I. She's more than capable, but doesn't like messing with the details.
    She won't buy anything other than boneless/skinless chicken either.
    I, on the other hand, love detailed work, and so will spend the time needed to get the fire right.
    Or, pull a chicken apart.:cool:
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  17. oldspark

    oldspark Guest

    One can only hope.
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  18. tom dee

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    Too Funny I prefer my other half not to use anything that has an engine or motor.. Dishwasher Clothes washer dryer shes just hard on things slams door to dryer drops lid on washer when i use n manage things last forever she mustve another car every couple years never cleans maintains etc she has always had great jobs so i been happy at home even raising my daughters who can operate anything under the sun and i mean anything other than birthing and work she got it made i guess she cussed me like a sailor during childbirth I reminded her that my Child will never be in upper or Mid Mgmt in retail breeds nothing but Wimps .. my daughters are drop dead beautiful edumacated to carhart wearing outdoors will whip any guy into shape quick i feel bad for em .. the guys ..
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  19. Oregon aloha

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    My wife is from Hawaii and grew up with screens (no windows). She likes to have the windows open and therefore wood heat, as it is the only way we can keep the place warm with the windows open.

    She ran the old Fisher just fine. (Keep throwing wood in it.) I purposely bought a stove with a single control so it would be easy to operate, but she hasn't embraced the new stove as well. She will in time as there is a learning curve. I'm gone three days a week so it's up to her to stay warm while I'm gone.
    She helps every year with hauling wood to the wood shed and keeps the house warm (I think) when I'm gone, so what more can I say.

    As far as the rest of the work, we share the chores in the house (laundry, dishes, vacuuming, etc.) She even mows the lawn at times. I do the rest of the outside chores as she isn't interested in pasture management and she has a brown thumb.
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    CenterTree Feeling the Heat

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    Wow, I can relate to this "quirky" behavior. My wife is from the tropics too. She hates our PA winters. I usually come home each day to find the Greenspeed Heat Pump cranked up to 80. And she will have the front door (with screen) wide open.:eek:

    This year will be our first with a wood stove (hopefully) and it should be interesting to see how it goes.
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  21. oldspark

    oldspark Guest

    You wont get her away from the stove.:)
  22. lml999

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    My wife won't deal with the stove. She doesn't have the interest in either moving the wood or in developing the technical aptitude to run a stove safely.

    I'm okay with that.

    If I'm traveling, the furnace and the dog will keep her warm. When I'm home, I'll keep her warm. :)
  23. KindredSpiritzz

    KindredSpiritzz Feeling the Heat

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    perfect thread for my morning. I wake up, ask the girlfriend how the furnace is running and she says fine and that she just stoked it. I go down and check, dampers closed and the wood she threw in there is just smouldering away choking on the smoke. I call her down and show her the situation and once again try to explain how to run the furnace. Suddenly im a dickhead and shes never touching the furnace again.
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  24. lml999

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    Or you. :)

    Maybe try a different approach?
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  25. oldspark

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    In about 1980 or so I installed a flue temp. gauge on the stove and told her to use that a guide line, it seemed to help her a lot but the stove is in our living area where she can keep an eye on it. My wife probably thinks I am a dick head 90% of the time, I am getting use to it.

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