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They dont make Women like they used to.My wife is 27 and cant make a grilled cheese, let alone keep the stove goin. Im envious of some of yall.

One could say that of a lot of 27 yr olds, male and female.
 
They dont make Women like they used to.My wife is 27 and cant make a grilled cheese, let alone keep the stove goin. Im envious of some of yall.


I don't think they make guys like they used to either. I lucked out, but man, my BIL barely knows where the gas goes in the car, much less how to change the oil in it. Any time any little thing needs done on their town house, he calls a "guy". I don't think he'd know which end of a hammer to use for what. :p

(BTW, I also can change the oil and do a good amount of home improvement stuff-except wiring because that scares me for absolutely NO good reason, so I leave that to DH most of the them-I did wire in the vanity light at our Old House though. And I have my own hammer)
 
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One could say that of a lot of 27 yr olds, male and female.


No doubt! DH and I were just discussing how people don't know how to do things anymore. Like make bread from scratch (as ours was rising on the hearth) or can or make cookies (and making cookies doesn't mean opening a refrigerated packet and baking the preformed pieces). Kinda scary actually.
 
Guys, every year this comes up, and understandably so, but the shoe fits on both feet in this case.
What did I miss? The thread title is as gender neutral as one can get, and folks from both sides of the gender coin have responded. In my case, my wife's lack of interest in running the stove has nothing to do with her being a woman.

Yes it does, she IS one.

*shoe busting* ;)
 
actually, as the OP, I was asking what do you do to make it easier for your significant other to keep the stove going. in my case, i keep biobricks handy, i wouldn't normally use them otherwise. but threads take on a life of thier own.
 
actually, as the OP, I was asking what do you do to make it easier for your significant other to keep the stove going. in my case, i keep biobricks handy, i wouldn't normally use them otherwise. but threads take on a life of thier own.


you know...the one thing I didn't think of helped both of us, a stove top thermo. I did neglect to tell him that the Rutland is really a single wall pipe thermo, I just told him not to pay attention to the "zones" just the temp. He was reading up somewhere online about stove temps and got a bit confused because of it-I'm thinking the thread he read was talking about flue temps (at least, I hope) because he was telling me we run the stove too hot and most people keep in in the zones. Then I told him it was a flue thermo and that was resolved back to running the stove as we had been.

Anyway, a stove top thermo with knowledge of where to keep it and how helps. And if your SO is curious, and you use a single wall thermo with zones like we do, explain that part!
 
I don't think they make guys like they used to either. I lucked out, but man, my BIL barely knows where the gas goes in the car, much less how to change the oil in it. Any time any little thing needs done on their town house, he calls a "guy". I don't think he'd know which end of a hammer to use for what. :p
Amen. Some gender roles served us well, at the time. Whereas women typically learned to sew and cook, men typically learned how to maintain the home and family transportation. Now, we seem to be living in a world of wussies who can't do any of these things. Rather than the man learning traditional woman roles, and vice versa, most successful people are happy to have zero skills of self-sustenance. An affluent man rescuing his family from a flat tire has somehow become, "call AAA."

But... none of this has anything to do with tending stoves. ;lol
 
Buddy, the first time she put in a Brad Pitt movie she was working those controls like a champ!!!

Same deal except Johnny Depp at my place. Any Pirates movie on the tube, and I no longer exist. I consider it to be a small payback for the many times I'm pretty much playing the part of brain dead jerk (re: how-not-to-treat-your-significant-other).
 
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one of our favorite family stories is of my nephew when he was 15 was asked to throw out the trash. he somehow wrestled the bag out of the receptacle, but didn't know enough to tie the draw strings. his mother told him to tie the bag and he didn't know what she was talking about. my wife and i were laughing from behind the kitchen window watching him on the lawn trying to tie the bag up for about 15 minutes. his mother had to eventually help him. this kid was a straight A student and since graduated from an ivy league school.
 
actually, as the OP, I was asking what do you do to make it easier for your significant other to keep the stove going. in my case, i keep biobricks handy, i wouldn't normally use them otherwise. but threads take on a life of thier own.
Oh now I understand, plenty of wood and kindling, super cedars if she needs them and the flue and stove top thermometers and my great advice.;)
 
She doesn't like handling splits.

I forgot to ask...but...why? Bugs? Splinters? ??

I almost grabbed a yellow jacket the other day on a split outside. So I can kinda get the bugs/bees part. Getting stung sucks. Never got a splinter from a split though-I HAVE gotten them from ecbricks though, lol.
 
Annual thread . . . and as I have said in the past . . . running a woodstove effectively does not require a dingus.
 
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Well the wife runs the stoves or freezes when I am gone, makes it easy.
Just hope she doesn't find an "alternative heat source" while you are away.:p:)
 
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Get a Blaze King and she will never have to touch it! I remember telling my wife how to run that Leyden and I couldn't understand why the bypass was so hard for her to figure out. I said it is the same as the Blaze King was. Then she reminded me, she never once had to touch the Blaze King! I'm so glad to have another BK!
Another good reason to get one of these.
My wife requests that I get a fire going, although she prefers it a little cooler than I. She's more than capable, but doesn't like messing with the details.
She won't buy anything other than boneless/skinless chicken either.
I, on the other hand, love detailed work, and so will spend the time needed to get the fire right.
Or, pull a chicken apart.:cool:
 
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Why? It's personal experiances. I'm not all that easily offended though (and really I find very few things around here even remotely possibly offensive-try hanging around automotive forums or worse, having a show car you take to shows/cruise nights). If anything, I get annoyed that people still think and act certain ways, but it goes both ways. Like, a friend of ours kept dating these high maintance chicks that would rather sit around reading cosmo and doing their nails and talking about shoes-and want us to come over. And of course, he and DH would go hang out in the garage and leave me with them. UGH. I'd rather put in a motor than talk about shoes. I mean really, who the heck cares, they go on your feet. And nail polish chips WAY to easily, I cannot be worrying about that when handling firewood or detailing my car.

Although...I will admit that sometimes I wonder if the chicks that won't touch the stove are married to the dudes that won't do dishes or laundry, lol. My neightbors are like that. She won't learn to drive the lawn tractor because he won't do the laundry or dust. lol
Too Funny I prefer my other half not to use anything that has an engine or motor.. Dishwasher Clothes washer dryer shes just hard on things slams door to dryer drops lid on washer when i use n manage things last forever she mustve another car every couple years never cleans maintains etc she has always had great jobs so i been happy at home even raising my daughters who can operate anything under the sun and i mean anything other than birthing and work she got it made i guess she cussed me like a sailor during childbirth I reminded her that my Child will never be in upper or Mid Mgmt in retail breeds nothing but Wimps .. my daughters are drop dead beautiful edumacated to carhart wearing outdoors will whip any guy into shape quick i feel bad for em .. the guys ..
 
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My wife is from Hawaii and grew up with screens (no windows). She likes to have the windows open and therefore wood heat, as it is the only way we can keep the place warm with the windows open.

She ran the old Fisher just fine. (Keep throwing wood in it.) I purposely bought a stove with a single control so it would be easy to operate, but she hasn't embraced the new stove as well. She will in time as there is a learning curve. I'm gone three days a week so it's up to her to stay warm while I'm gone.
She helps every year with hauling wood to the wood shed and keeps the house warm (I think) when I'm gone, so what more can I say.

As far as the rest of the work, we share the chores in the house (laundry, dishes, vacuuming, etc.) She even mows the lawn at times. I do the rest of the outside chores as she isn't interested in pasture management and she has a brown thumb.
 
My wife is from Hawaii and grew up with screens (no windows). She likes to have the windows open and therefore wood heat, as it is the only way we can keep the place warm with the windows open.
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Wow, I can relate to this "quirky" behavior. My wife is from the tropics too. She hates our PA winters. I usually come home each day to find the Greenspeed Heat Pump cranked up to 80. And she will have the front door (with screen) wide open.:eek:

This year will be our first with a wood stove (hopefully) and it should be interesting to see how it goes.
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Wow, I can relate to this "quirky" behavior. My wife is from the tropics too. She hates our PA winters. I usually come home each day to find the Greenspeed Heat Pump cranked up to 80. And she will have the front door (with screen) wide open.:eek:

This year will be our first with a wood stove (hopefully) and it should be interesting to see how it goes.
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You wont get her away from the stove.:)
 
I think most of you guys who ponder/complain about this, made a poor choice, IMHO. No long term planning ;lol

My wife won't deal with the stove. She doesn't have the interest in either moving the wood or in developing the technical aptitude to run a stove safely.

I'm okay with that.

If I'm traveling, the furnace and the dog will keep her warm. When I'm home, I'll keep her warm. :)
 
perfect thread for my morning. I wake up, ask the girlfriend how the furnace is running and she says fine and that she just stoked it. I go down and check, dampers closed and the wood she threw in there is just smouldering away choking on the smoke. I call her down and show her the situation and once again try to explain how to run the furnace. Suddenly im a dickhead and shes never touching the furnace again.
 
perfect thread for my morning. I wake up, ask the girlfriend how the furnace is running and she says fine and that she just stoked it. I go down and check, dampers closed and the wood she threw in there is just smouldering away choking on the smoke. I call her down and show her the situation and once again try to explain how to run the furnace. Suddenly im a dickhead and shes never touching the furnace again.

Or you. :)

Maybe try a different approach?
 
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perfect thread for my morning. I wake up, ask the girlfriend how the furnace is running and she says fine and that she just stoked it. I go down and check, dampers closed and the wood she threw in there is just smouldering away choking on the smoke. I call her down and show her the situation and once again try to explain how to run the furnace. Suddenly im a dickhead and shes never touching the furnace again.
In about 1980 or so I installed a flue temp. gauge on the stove and told her to use that a guide line, it seemed to help her a lot but the stove is in our living area where she can keep an eye on it. My wife probably thinks I am a dick head 90% of the time, I am getting use to it.
 
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