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My wife usually arrives home from work around 4 pm. At that time we usually walk our dog, about a mile in the woods and converse about the day.
If snow is on the ground, then we xc ski. Today she was running late but our chocolate lab routine time clock is telling him its time. I loaded the stove and got it going, knowing that about the time I get back. I will be cat engage time. She arrived before me a rover returned from his walk and panicked.
The stove top Temp was heading towards 700 she engaged the Cat. She gives me hell and disses the stove. It’s easier to turn up the thermostat. Like all good arguments, one needs ammunition. I asked what is so hard about knowing how to control two levers? Then I drop the bomb. You are not telling me, that poor me a Northeastern Grad is smarter than a Bio major out of Stonehill. She again disses the foolish stove. I up the anti and ask her is that the best response a Stonehill grad can come up with. I remind her; she too, has had a stove or more in the home 30 years. I know this stove has preformed the best out of all stoves I have owned. I no longer have to get up in the middle of night and feed it. I can keep 650 to 450 up till 8 hours possibly more on a single load. 16 degrees last night stove top still at 450 and the entire downstairs is 70 degrees. I never did that before. She then says she will never like the stove because the other one had the bread warning shelf and mitten racks. She really used the bread shelf to raise dough, and dried out mittens scarfs and hats. I told here I would search the net far and wide to find one possibly 2, but I have discontinued Forest Green. I have to find old inventory. You know at first I was not too thrilled with the forest Green, but the condition and price could not be matched. We are learning to live with it. She really liked the blue Resolute Acclaim.

Unfortunately we are no longer young, but still healthy. She is taking an interest in the normal things I do around the home, to keep things working, like the stove. At times she will surprise me and have the stove running fine when I’m away. She also wants to know how to change the water filters and a lot of simple things I done instinctively for years. I know that she brags at work that our oil burner has not come on yet.

The best wife pleaser concerning wood stoves is top loading. One Fireplace long sleeve glove and splits she can handle. Even she noticed the additional heat this stove produces. I now get the hints it’s a little chilly in here, translated: get that damn stove cranking

The second wife pleaser is the ash removal. No shovel required, Swing out the ash door slide the handle top on and take it outside.
This is the cleanest setup I have ever experienced. One can slide the handle top on the ash pan even with hot ashes and carry them outside. There is no ash dust, no spillage, and no hot handle to deal with. Sunday she even watched me remove the cat and clean it out. She was amazed how easy it was in my Intrepid II. She proclaimed that even she could do it. I showed her what to look for as indications of clean burning that brownish ash inside the firebox and flue.
The plow and hearth arrive sale magazine arrived the other day, She spots the same color steamer and remarks how nice one would look on the stove top especially, if it can be moved to a warming shelf for loading.
My wife usually awakes before me. If I leave some manageable splits she will feed the stove. She has learned how to operate the air and damper settings. My job is made easier. How involved is you other
 
There are about 20 women reading this post and thinking "SOLD" got to get me one of them stoves.

hahahaha , I need to come up with a Pacific Energy Summit story like that.
Just rib-n ya buddy, Good post ole' ELKer. ;-)
 
Mine likes the heat it produces.


Every time she tells me she needs more exercize I tell her she can split some wood. She took me up on it for about 20 minutes and said she liked it. That's about it.

Matt
 
My wife has learned along with me on how to get the most out of our insert. She usually stays up later than I do and loads the stove for the night. If she wakes during the night, she adds a few splits. Helps me clean out the ashes and sweeps up around the hearth after I load up the wood rack. She was a bit skeptical when I first started pushing the insert idea but now loves the extra heat and has been a real help. With the kids gone, we seem to be working together even better than before and that is a great thing. She even helped me stack up the load of slab wood I bought. Good woman.
 
Mine is real helpful, she tells me when its too fricken hot in here, she helps by opening up all the windows, and really helps the makeup air to the stove by turning on anything with a motor and blades!
 
My wife is very involved....she brings me a cool drink when I'm splitting puts orange peels in the water boiling on the top of the stove never complains about vacuuming the floor And opens the window all by herself when it gets a little hot in the house.....Now thats a good woman
 
I'm the wife. I am the one who wanted, researched, selected and bought the stove. I arranged the install, I sat and watched, asked questions and drove the guys crazy as I do every time someone cleans it as well. I am NOT one to sit back and just assume everything is okay.

I scrounge wood, arriving home with my land yacht filled with chunks of wood that I load in there and then unload and stack to await splitting. He splits. I move splits to where we stack. He stacks. We both drag wood in, although for this year, yesterday was the first load he brought in. He does have an excuse though. It's hard for him to lift. He tore all of his adductor muslces off his pelvic bone early on in the year as well as tore his hamstring while playing hockey. It's a long, hard recovery and some days are good, some not. The lifting is hard for him sometimes so I don't push that. But, the prior 2 years when he wasn't injured weren't all that much different.

I load and start the insert although he did once; this is year 3 that we've had it. Mostly I get the hint "hey, it's a bit chilly in here...". I remove ash, I fill up the woodbox inside daily, I vacuum up all the dust, wood trash that gets all over. I monitor the fire, reload, adjust the air controls, etc. He still can't remember to push in the top and pull out the bottom air controls.

I'm happy with how we have it although I would like a bit of help monitoring the fire. But then, the two overfires we've had in the stove were both when I had to shower and asked him to watch the temp and turn it down if it started to get going. So maybe we are better off with our current set up.....
 
Wife loads the stove and engages the cat at the temps I have told her are safe. Loads it every day when she gets home from school/work. Daughter surprised me this morning. She had the stove reloaded and in full flame when I came down. She had woken up cold. not sure why I didn't get a full overnight burn. it was 75 degrees in the next room at 1030 when I reloaded with large splits and damped it down.
 
Roospike said:
There are about 20 women reading this post and thinking "SOLD" got to get me one of them stoves.

hahahaha , I need to come up with a Pacific Energy Summit story like that.
Just rib-n ya buddy, Good post ole' ELKer. ;-)


I never mentioned the manufacturer Funny after reading it it did sound an advertisement appealing to woman buyers.
when typing it it was just as the title indicated
 
My mom will never touch the stove. Doesn't matter which stove it is, or how cold it is. I don't know what her problem is, but there have been two times, since we started burning solid fuel that she's touched the stove. Once, it was FREEZING, she was sick and the stove went out. She called my grandpa so he would talk her how to light the stove. Second time was just a few weeks ago. She opened up the new stove and dropped in a new log, to keep things rolling. I was impressed about the second one, and I think we may be making a breakthrough.


My girlfriend/fiancee/wife/Corrie^2 on the other hand is always starting fires, messing with the fire, etc. I came home two nights ago just as she was firing up the fireplace in our apartment. She is always cold, so anything that helps to get her warm is ok with her. She usually will spend time with me outside stacking wood as I split. She's much much better at the criss-cross stacking pattern than I am. Patience goes a long way I suppose.
 
Funny to be reading this today...just after the long wood cutting trip yesterday. It was the wife that was asking, "can we go cut wood today". Sad part is...I think she does all the hard work! I fell the tree and start limbing. As the limbs are being cut, she drags them off to a brush pile. Then I start cutting logs. Pretty much as soon as I clear out of an area with the chainsaw, she starts moving them to the trailer. So basically all I do is pull the trigger on the saw and waive it through the air, she does the rest!

At home, we're pretty equal footing as well...who ever happens to be around or get cold first is the one to light the fire and tend the stove. I think she knows how to work the air controls at least as good as I do. Now if I could just teach her how to file a saw chain! Well, maybe that is a spring project.

Corey
 
My wife loves a warm house and hot tap water, and hates high utility bills, so all I had to do was show her how to load the boiler/stove/furnace and she's always been game.

I do all the cutting, splitting, stacking and hauling, however.
 
Holy crap! Mine doesn't do a damn thing. You guys have it made. I would like to forward this thread to her (after editing my comments) but she would lash out and say I was trying to make her feel bad. She loves the heat, loves the woodstove. Maybe she just thinks it is all "my thing"??? I really wish I could get her more involved. I find, buck, load, unload, split, stack, tend, bring inside, load, monitor, reload, clean, vacuum... Sharing the experience would be nice.

She did stay home recently and kept the fire going by adding a few splits throughout the day. I was impressed, and glad she stayed a little warmer that day. I also wish she would show more interest as there are right ways and wrong/dangerous ways to operate a stove and she needs to be aware of both. I share a few tidbits from time to time but not sure she's really absorbing the info. It has taken me a year to learn what I know so I can't teach ehr everything at once. I'm not sure she knows enough to be trusted starting a fire by herself. Starting it is manageable, but you have to be prepared for situations like it not lighting correctly, smoke abnormally spilling into the house, log falling out, stove getting too hot too fast, etc.

Maybe I will get her a potpourri pot for Christmas and see if that gets her a little more interested. She did get one of those clay discs you put drops of scent on but it didn't work for crap.
 
Up until she became disabled my wife would keep the stove cranking. I travelled a lot and for years she hauled up her wheelbarrow loads of wood and kept it fed. One time I was in St. Louis and she called and said "Twenty degrees outside. Two feet of snow. Airports closed so you aren't coming home but the stove is cruising at 550 and I have plenty of wood. See ya when you get here.".

One funny incident occured when I was away. I came back and their were huge whole limbs stacked up on the breezeway. I asked what the hell they were for and she told me that she was tired of going out in the woods and breaking off twigs to restart morning fires. She just drug whole limbs up under cover so they would be handy. I loved it.
 
Like cozy heat , my wife loves to cut wood. She also clears the brush while I trim and removes the rounds as I cut them and loads them into the truck and trailer. She helps with the unloading and carries the rounds to me as I split them on the splitter. She will not mess with the log splitter as she says it scares her. She carries the splits and stacks them and brings in wood to fill the log holder next to the stove. It holds about ¼ rick and she fill it about once a week usually while I am at work. She starts fires when I’m away and adds splits whenever necessary. She also cleans around the hearth and log holder whenever necessary. I can’t complain at all even when she uses an entire Super Cedar and way to much kindling to get a fire going. She’s a keeper for sure. We have been married now for 19 years and have burned wood for over 5 years now. She loves showing her friends and neighbors our $36 winter natural gas bill!
 
Like Sandy, I pretty much do everything except run the chainsaw and split. I dealt with the dealer/installers, manage the wood supply, clean the stove and I even made the hearthpad myself. I did and continue to do all the research, and thanks to sites like this and people like those here my confidence and appreciation of the whole process (as well as my sense of humor) have benefitted. My honey is finally coming around and will most times keep quiet and stay out of my way. I don't mind the mess, enjoy the excercise and love the heat of course, not to mention the sense of satisfaction. I'm very possessive about 'my' stove and aside from cutting and splitting all I ask of him is to deal with the dang spiders.
 
Hi -

My "Other" had issues with doing anything constructive. The Resolute Acclaim is much warmer and it's quiet! My children are very fond of it. My 12YO will barely let my own Dad tend the stove if I'm not around. He likes watching the load of splits come up to temp, and engaging the secondary burn gate.

My best buddy is now getting pressure to get a 'nice stove' in his place... He's in a Tri-level and has a big Game room in the basement where he wants the stove. His fiance thinks it should go in the Living Room since she's planning to run it a good bit of the time! Should be interesting.

ATB,
Mike P
 
my other half would rather plug in a electric blanket then use the stove. She has no intrest whatsoever. Now my 14 month old loves is, she will craw down the stairs and drag up the seasoned splits, build a small kindling fire, load it up when its ready to take off, and adjust the air accordingly. I have even caught her cleaning the glass.... ;)
 
The Mrs. will do everything except chainsaw and split. She is good with the pickup in 4x4 with a loaded trailer...She knows the stove inside and out and knows the different species of wood. She helps with the annual brushing. She loves the soapstone. She works out of the house and keeps it going 24/7.

Most of the time we have 2 weeks of wood in the house..If the opportunity is there to wheelbarrow more in from the woodshed which is 125-150 ft both downhill (snow & ice) and flat she will do it.
 
my better half will put splits in and keep it going when i'm not around and go on the occasional wood cutting adventure.

msg. macy, my 6 month old daughter, she is already running the chainsaw and splitter:)
 
I'm like Sandy and Kate, I did all the research, paid for the stove, designed and bought the chimney, made dimensioned drawings for the permit and helped hubby install it. I operate and clean up most of the time and have seen the gas bill cut in half. As for splitting, I love doing that and have the patience for splitting down to kindling size. Splitting's great exercise and has helped my back like you wouldn't believe - makes for abs of steel! Hubby splits the big logs in half and I take it from there, splitting to 6" and less and making kindling as well. I truck the wood from the yard with the wheelbarrow and load them onto a rack in the garage to get 3 or 4 days worth at a time.

Alas, I'm now almost 7 months pregnant and haven't touched my splitting axe or wheelbarrow since spring, but I look forward to next spring when I can say honey watch the baby, I'm going outside to split for a while. With 2 cords needing splitting, I'll be back in shape in no time!!!
 
What can I say? It came out of my checking account with money I earned and saved after paying half the mortgage and household expenses every month.
 
Well each having our own checking account works for us - no balance confusion. Shared savings account that we both electronically transfer funds. Each have own 401K and IRA retirement accounts. At the time we bought the stove, I was working and we had health insurance paid by our respective companies. This is our first child on the way and Grandma has the education fund covered already thank - we're blessed! :)
 
congrats tutu! there loads of fun :) we are going to have another this spring, they will be about 1.5 years apart! :)
 
Thanks MSG and congrats to you and your wife. We're thrilled and expecting baby around St. Patty's Day. I had to get that Irish baby bib I saw at the mall to get ready for the first holiday!
 
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