I really don't want to use my heating system at all, it doesn't work that well and it's expensive.
Like these guys say, running a heat pump when you don't need the wood stove is the way to go. Less polluting for one thing, plus they're cheap to run. But they might be a bit pricey up front, and it sounds like you may be looking to conserve cash right now, if you're looking at used stoves.
We have no backup heat here now, just the stove, but I aim to get a mini-split heat/AC unit in here soon. You never know when you may have to take a hiatus from burning wood...
also I have been avoiding stoves with a cat on the assumption that it wouldn't be great if we don't always want a hot fire burning all day I was under the impression you needed to keep the fire upto a certain temp and the cat engaged when burning?
Once you get the stove hot enough, keep some flame going, close the bypass and light the cat for some period of minutes, you can then cut the air low, the cat will keep burning and the stove will put out low heat for the duration of the burn.
I've seen advice on here to go a little bigger than you need when looking for a wood stove, as you can always make a smaller fire in a big stove. I live in the south and some days are just not that cold.
If that's Tyler, TX, that's pretty mild weather most of the time. The rare occasions when you get a cold snap, you can use another heat source like your furnace, an electric heater, etc. You really don't need to oversize the stove to handle frequent cold snaps, as needed further north.
If your place has fair insulation, I might consider a smaller non-cat stove rather than oversizing. You can run a robust, cleaner burn in a smaller stove yet still not overheat the place, especially if you have some lower-output woods that you can select, and burn partial loads. Then, if your house holds heat OK, you can ride that heat off a small fire for many hours in average weather.
I'd consider the non-cat since they are easy to run, have fewer moving parts and are easier to maintain. I've run almost all cat stoves in the past, but a few years back got a non-cat stove for one of my SILs, a Pacific Energy. Great stove...quality build and simple design. Next stove I consider will probably be a non-cat.
I steered a friend towards PE and he decided on a Vista, their small stove. Can't wait to get out there and watch him run it! 😀