Just a quick update, THE STOVE IS IN
I've turned the oil furnace off all night and day and click it on in the evening to heat the water for baths/showers etc. Other than that, the house has been toasty warm (for the first time) since the installation! I'm on the my third bag of pellets on day three (yesterday was quite mild, so the stove wasn't on much). Last night we woke up in a lather of sweat, so I had to go turn the temp down on the stove (still playing with the best placement for the thermostat).
The installers were great (especially considerring they had to lug a 375lb stove on a Friday afternoon). They answered all my questions up front and they told me right away that they wouldn't be able to set the draft till Wed (but it's been working like a top nonetheless). They laid rugs down from the doorway and all through my living room to avoid any mess. They were very thorough with explaining the stove to me, and called me in for my two cents on certain matters ie: if I was happy with the placement of the stove on the hearth, and to check over the painted pipe and point any spots out that I may think needs some touching up. They also walked me through the work they were going to do and the parts they were going to use (and yes they did use the new piping that has the gaskets, and they screwed them together and taped. The were neat with all they caulking work inside and out and again had me critique the job!
Day #3: couldn't be happier! I'll keep yas posted. Couldn't have done it without all the great advice and tips, thanks.