Thank you for the feedback! I have been often feeling like I'm the crazy one.
It would also seem to me that the heat output might be affected from these air leaks. Like my wood stove would act more like an open fireplace when so much air is circulating through and would lose more heat through the chimney. I have been told that I have very strong draft, which I believe is true because I never seem to have trouble lighting a fire even when the outside temp and inside temp are about the same. Is this also a possibility with air leaks? Again, I have been told that the only possible reason that I am not getting the heat output I would expect is that I'm not having big enough fires with dry enough wood. But when I point my laser thermometer at the glass, I often get readings over 800 degrees... My wood is dry. We have seasoned it ourselves and my fires always light easily on the first try. No moisture off the ends, moisture meter reads well, etc.
We got this model of stove because our friends who live in a 100-year-old house in Michigan use it to heat their house almost exclusively. I have difficulty, even with the driest wood and hottest fires, getting even our main room warm, even on days where the outdoor temps are in the 40s, 50s, even 60s. I have not felt heated out of the room (except when we've had a dozen or more people crammed in our living room with the doors closed and fire going), and our living room has doors to the stairs and French doors to the dining room so we are able to completely isolate it from the rest of the house.