NickW
Minister of Fire
Thanks Clancey! That's where I'm at. Keep helping, be supportive, go along with what he wants to do. The roof is coming along and I ran to the dump for him today and helped for awhile. Now he's shingling again and will let me know when he needs more up later. I will stay outside and make sure I can hear him hammering and go check up if it stops for too long. He is really good about taking breaks and hydrating.It's frustrating N. As people get older they are "set in their ways" and any kind of change upsets them. Its hard for your neighbor too because he is realizing how weak he is getting and still wants to be in control. I would back away and share with him that if he needs any help in other aspects of life---you are there...Just back off for awhile and "do by no doing" and see what happens--leave it up to life at this time.and have a good cup of coffee put your feet up and just relax and do what you need to do in your own home. Heck bring a bowl of chili over or something--he will like that and not feel so so alone....I am on your side because I understand "both sides" being "old myself", and waiting for my life to change and what a drag it is to think about it...As one gets older one loses their close friends as they age and this is depressing to say the least especially when you start to review your past and know what a wonderful part of your life they were and just hang back and do what you need to do with your own affairs and do by no doing and see what happens...clancey