Most stoves are not "finicky" at all. The stoves work just fine and will do as designed, but just like when you drive your car or truck; that vehicle is designed to operate safely but there is nothing to stop you from pushing that accelerator to the floor! So it is not the stove but the operator.
One just needs to begin using safe practices and be sure everyone knows and follows the rule. If that means you have to set a timer, then by all means, get a loud one and use it every time you put wood in the stove. Don't be like the fella we read about who put wood in the stove and left the firebox door open a crack (common practice) for added draft to get the fire going. Then he drove down to the corner grocery to pick up a couple items. When he got back his stove was hot, hot, hot! Or the other one who started a fire then went upstairs and took a shower. His stove was hot too. It is dumb stuff like this that gets folks in trouble. For sure one has to realize that a wood stove needs more input than just setting a thermostat.
There are many other things folks can do and they include burning only good dry wood, checking and cleaning the chimney on a regular schedule, keeping something on hand just in case a fire starts to get out of hand , going over the safe operation of the stove with the entire family, etc, etc.
A case can be made for most stoves that they are safe. There are only a very few out there that are not so good. I also do not like buying used. For sure sometimes one can get a real deal but a new wood burner I do not think should go used. There is too much of a chance something is wrong with the stove. Buy new and get a warranty. Buy from Woodstock and not only do you get a good warranty but you get a 6 month guarantee! Use it up to 6 months and if not happy, sell it back to them for full price. On top of that, their customer service is second to none.