ckarotka said:
Wet1 said:
That's understandable. OTOH, I'm not sure you're seeing the forest through the trees... You have to tuck your tail between your legs and ask for the truck regardless, and you have to work the use of the truck off with your BIL regardless if you ran a load over to you buddy's place or not, so it's not like it would be any sweat off your back. Would it have really been a big deal to run a load over to your partners place after you worked together on this project since you knew he didn't have an efficient means of moving the wood either? I'm sure he would have covered the gas. Would your BIL really have cared if you made an extra run if he covered the gas, since your two were working together on this project? Really? Like I said, you worked of the use of the truck and this guy was working with you. I'd be willing to bet your BIL wouldn't have cared or even known for that matter. In fact I'd guess your buddy would have covered more than his fair share of the gas, and probably threw some in for your BIL as well, and I'm sure that wouldn't have bothered your BIL!
True friends help each other out whenever possible. I have a buddy I occasionally work with. I have a lot of equipment, or access to equipment (which often gets paid back in the form of favors as well) that my buddy doesn't have, and vice versa. We help each other out all the time when it comes to this stuff. Sometimes I have to cash in a favor to help him out and he does the same for me. This to me is a true friendship and it's mutually beneficial for both of us. I'm not saying I'm with your buddy on this one, but I can't say I agree with you on this one either. Now that your buddy has not only a truck, but a trailer as well (and you have neither), I wonder how willing he'll be to haul something for you in the future when you don't have your BIL's truck? If I were him, I know I'd think twice about it.
Thank you for your response,
I was a d***. I realize that now. That was the reason I posted here to get non-biased opinions. My wife would of course side with and her brother making sure I don't abuse the deal. I don't for see any problems with my buddy we have talked it out and I apologized for being so difficult. Things are tough and I sometimes get tunnel vision at the bigger picture.
Thank you all I hope I didn't make you guys think too low of me, I think it's time to put this to bed and move on. And if the moderators want to change my screen name to Cheap Bas**** I'm ok with that.
NO you weren't a d**k. It wasn't your truck. You were clear that it wasn't yours and the additional miles and potential wear putting on the truck wasn't yours to decide. HE HAD A TRUCK TO USE. All he had to do was make a few extra trips. Suck it up! You even stated that when you felt it wasn't appropriate to use someone elses vehicle in a way that it wasn't agreed upon your friend whined about it. HE should have shut his hole, said he understands, and thanked you for finding another great wood scrounge.
The person above stated 'True friends help each other out whenever possible.' Fine. Where was he when you were busting your ass putting in your service time with your brother in-law? Also, a 'true friend' understands when a person can't lend out other people's property.
Seriously, this is all a non-issue and should have ended with you telling your buddy to quit his b!tching and the truck isn't yours to do with as you please. If he didn't understand that is his problem to deal with. You are just trying to make ends meet, you don't need a buddy making you feel like crap because you didn't help him
enough (and you did help him as you have stated previously that you have found all the scrounge wood to date which allows him to drastically reduce his wood costs)
In the end you were just being respectful to the deal you had in place.
